Why is it that you are holding back until some future event comes about to begin being happy? What is it inside of you that makes it a requirement to put off being happy?
In my opinion, it is past programming that is holding you in the 'victim' mode. Continuing to trust that somebody or something else is in control of whether or not you are able to be happy.
We have learned from birth what should and should not make us happy. What should and should not make us unhappy. You are basically operating on 'auto pilot'. You have put external things in control of your ability to be happy.
Wayne Dyer tells a story from Buddha about a father that began believing his son had been killed in an attack on his village. This was not true, the child had been abducted. When the child was able to escape, he came back to his father's door in the middle of the night and began asking to come in. The father, because he trusted his child was dead, would not let his son in and sent him away.
As the result of his belief that was based on unproven facts, the father and son were not able to be reunited. Since he would not explore new facts, he was kept from having the joy of being with his child.
This points out that we frequently allow the things that we have "learned", regardless of the validity of the "facts" that were used to produce the belief, to cloud our horizon. We let these beliefs keep us from being happy.
It is similar to the story of the Thanksgiving ham. A man that was recently married was presented with a beautiful ham by his wife for Thanksgiving. He noticed that she had cut a portion off of both ends and asked her why. She stated that it was because that is the way her mom had forever done it. So, the next time they visited her mother, they inquired about this practice. The mother said that it was how she had been taught by her mother, the brides grandmother. Well, it so happened that the grandmother was there at the time so they asked her the same question. The grandmother told them that the reason she had always done it was that her oven was too small to manage a full sized ham so she had to cut it down to fit.
This once again illustrates how we allow "facts" that have gone unquestioned for years direct our lives.
It is time to begin questioning the "facts" that you allow to direct your happiness, or the lack there of.
Life is as good as I allow it to be.
In my opinion, it is past programming that is holding you in the 'victim' mode. Continuing to trust that somebody or something else is in control of whether or not you are able to be happy.
We have learned from birth what should and should not make us happy. What should and should not make us unhappy. You are basically operating on 'auto pilot'. You have put external things in control of your ability to be happy.
Wayne Dyer tells a story from Buddha about a father that began believing his son had been killed in an attack on his village. This was not true, the child had been abducted. When the child was able to escape, he came back to his father's door in the middle of the night and began asking to come in. The father, because he trusted his child was dead, would not let his son in and sent him away.
As the result of his belief that was based on unproven facts, the father and son were not able to be reunited. Since he would not explore new facts, he was kept from having the joy of being with his child.
This points out that we frequently allow the things that we have "learned", regardless of the validity of the "facts" that were used to produce the belief, to cloud our horizon. We let these beliefs keep us from being happy.
It is similar to the story of the Thanksgiving ham. A man that was recently married was presented with a beautiful ham by his wife for Thanksgiving. He noticed that she had cut a portion off of both ends and asked her why. She stated that it was because that is the way her mom had forever done it. So, the next time they visited her mother, they inquired about this practice. The mother said that it was how she had been taught by her mother, the brides grandmother. Well, it so happened that the grandmother was there at the time so they asked her the same question. The grandmother told them that the reason she had always done it was that her oven was too small to manage a full sized ham so she had to cut it down to fit.
This once again illustrates how we allow "facts" that have gone unquestioned for years direct our lives.
It is time to begin questioning the "facts" that you allow to direct your happiness, or the lack there of.
Life is as good as I allow it to be.
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